Hit Me Up: Kinky Mixer - Charmskool Edition

Hit Me Up: Kinky Mixer! This special edition is open to the public.

Hit Me Up afternoon social event featuring pop up market by en-us,">span>, the UK’s favorite k*nk positive shopping destination. Get your hands on exclusive art & fashion from local & visiting international brands. Hello awesome Halloween outfits!

For our vetted members, this is a great chance to get to introduce yourself to the community and for us to get to know you so that we can invite you to our private events. If you're already a private member, our Hangouts are the perfect opportunity to make some new friends leading up to our upcoming private events.

Come laugh, drink, and relax it off at the HMU loft with a crowd of new and old friends.

About the Event

Join us as we welcome en-us,">span>, the UK’s favourite Handmade K*nk Marketplace for their first ever stateside pop up market. Shop from 20+ local & international makers selling spicy fashion (lat3x, leather, lingerie), art & toys. We’ll also have some exciting activities throughout the day so look out for announcements! This event is part of a social at the expansive HMU loft, so expect drinks, tunes and chill vibes plus plenty of space to relax & meet new friends!

We are so excited to bring these incredible events together for one weekend of creative, inclusive spicy fun. Make sure you sign up for newsletters to stay in the know, and as a bonus, all ticket purchases come with a 15% off code to f3tish artisan website Charmskoolshop.com,">span>, as a welcome gift for their launch in North America!

I'm new, what are these like? Our Hangout events are smaller and more intimate than our mixers, anywhere from 70 to 120 people usually show up. That means there are plenty of new folks to meet, and hopefully the right types for whatever you're into. Hangouts are only open to vetted members, which means a better awareness of our community standards than our public events.

Everything is PG-13, and it's fairly easy to meet new folks—everyone who comes to these events is specifically looking to at least make new friends. So don't be shy, introduce yourself. And if you run into any problems or someone makes you uncomfortable, talk to a guardian with a red armband, and we'll take care of it.

Membership: This event is open to the public. If you want to apply for our vetted membership to access our other events, you can go to join">span> and fill out an application.

There will be no tickets sold at the door, all attendees must purchase them in advance.

Dress code: There's no enforced dress code, but we recommend all black or something nice. A bit of kinky flair is always welcome. If you look like you're going to try to pitch us on a totally fair fantasy football trade or the landlord hustle lifestyle, you'll probably have less fun.

Volunteers: We are looking for volunteers to work the door and guardian at this event. To volunteer please reach out to [email protected].

Consent Policy: This is an ASK FIRST event and the rules of respectful and consensual behavior WILL be enforced. You will be responsible for reading the policy and behaving appropriately. Guardians will be present throughout the night. Please click here to read our consent policy in full. Aggressive cruising or aggressively asking for private member sponsorship or approval will not be tolerated. Take time and get to know the community!

Accessibility: The venue is wheelchair accessible with an elevator and no stairs to the front door. If you have questions about the space please email [email protected].

Covid Safety: Please stay home if you are feeling ill or if you have had recent close contact with someone who tested Covid positive (within the past 5 days). You could be incubating and still test negative. Any requests for refunds for any reason will be honored up to the day of the party. Just email [email protected] and we will give you a full refund, no questions asked.

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ABOUT HIT ME UP

What is Hit Me Up?

Hit Me Up is New York City’s curated community for poly and kink. We run meetups, parties, and teach kink at House of Yes, Caveat, Torture Garden, and other venues around the city.

We got our start running small events for our friends that quickly outgrew multiple venues. Now we have our own space and we are working to build the kink and poly community that NYC deserves—safer, friendlier, and weirder.

Why is Hit Me Up different?

Our core value at Hit Me Up is that poly and kink should be FUN. We balance accessibility and friendliness with a selective approach to membership to ensure that we get to hang out and play in the community we want to exist. Safety and respect are the only things we always take seriously.

How do you keep your events safe?

❣️ Our rules are actually enforced. If we say there’s a dress code, we will actually turn away anyone who doesn’t put in the effort to follow it. See our full consent policy for more details.

❣️ We don’t oversell our events. There will always be space to breathe, to get away, and to get into what you’re into.

❣️ Aggressive, cruising, and abusive behavior are dealt with quickly.

❣️ Complaints and reports get action. We will never choose an extra ticket sale over risk to our members.

We are the guardians of the community, the space and the vibe, and we take that responsibility seriously. All of these things add up, and we think it shows in our membership and the incredible and weird things that can happen at our events.

How Do I Become A Member?

To join Hit Me Up, go to join">span> and fill out the application. It helps if you have an existing member to put down as vouching for you, but it’s not necessary. Membership is completely free, and is purely for vetting and safety purposes.

Can I get in touch with you?

Feel free to email us, [email protected].">span>. Hit Me Up is run by Alice and Hawthorne, two sexy weirdos who get off on making truly magical events.

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